Where The Wild Things Are
This is not a photography related post but more a personal one and some of you may identify with it.
I had been wanting to see the movie Where The Wild Things Are for quite a while and had started it a couple of times but one of my boys would always want me to turn it off (I don't get much viewing time without the kiddos). So finally a couple of nights ago I decided I wanted to watch it and if he didn't want to watch it he could go entertain himself. He chose to stay and watch it but requested that I skip over the beginning which he had seen before and was upset by. He was so bothered by it that it was kind of odd.
The movie was much more "deep" than the book.
In the book we meet Max and find that he thinks that his mother is unfair after he is punished by being sent to bed with no dinner. He then escapes into a world of monsters who crown him king because he is the wildest of all. After a while he figures out that where he really belongs and wants to be is home. It's a good book.
The movie goes deeper and you feel what the kid is feeling on a different level. The wild things represent different parts of him self, some of which even he is not too fond of. It would seem that kids would miss a lot of the details involved but I think my little guy caught quite a bit of it.
He watched the whole movie and at times did some of his odd behaviors like covering his ears but kept watching - even though he could still hear. That is one of the things he does when he is afraid or upset.
When we talked about it, what it came down to is that he identified so very strongly with the boy and it made him sad. I won't go into detail in case you have not yet seen the movie but it was a moment that pulled on my heartstrings and one that I will remember for a long time. I am sure he will too.
I am not saying the character in the movie had adhd but my kiddo in question is kind of a stereotypical adhd kid in many respects and those traits that he doesn't understand about himself and doesn't like about himself are some that he was identifying with. He is such an awesome kid though and smart as a whip but I see those moments frequently where he does things that get him in trouble and he genuinely does not know why he did them. It's kind of sad but we all do it, although likely on a less dramatic level. We all do things we wish we had not and wonder why we did it in the first place (at least I think we all do).
A lot of people don't think adhd is real or think that it's an excuse or whatever but if you live with it and you see different aspects in different people you love, you know that it is real.
That kiddo is not the only one in the house with adhd and we all show it in slightly different ways. We have one who is not hyper and not really impulsive but is VERY distracted. That same child is wonderfully imaginative and a joy to be around. Her issues are also much more easily overlooked because they don't often involve acting out. Then there is myself. Yep...me too. I tend to be more distracted than hyper and impulsive, but I definitely exhibit those tendencies as well. Just not to the same extent as my son.
The folks in the house who do not seem to have these same personality issues are very tolerant of the rest of us. We really are a blessed family. I think that I likely have the most trouble tolerating some of the behaviors because when you see something that really irritates you it often is one of your own traits that you are not too terribly fond of. However I also think that when the emotional wounds are open I identify the best with what is going on.
Two of us have tried medication and have discontinued using it. I know it can really help some people but it just isn't for everyone. I really like who my kids are and for the most part I like myself ok. We are going the route of trying to change some eating habits and piling on lots of love and discipline.
Anyone who doesn't understand what these kids feel may not get how much this movie and that moment with my son touched me. However if you have your own "wild thing" and you haven't seen the movie you may want to. I think the movie may hit home more with you than with some others. I have seen reviews that talked about the whimsy being taken away from the original story but in my opinion it was definitely replaced with something worthwhile and eye opening.
I had been wanting to see the movie Where The Wild Things Are for quite a while and had started it a couple of times but one of my boys would always want me to turn it off (I don't get much viewing time without the kiddos). So finally a couple of nights ago I decided I wanted to watch it and if he didn't want to watch it he could go entertain himself. He chose to stay and watch it but requested that I skip over the beginning which he had seen before and was upset by. He was so bothered by it that it was kind of odd.
The movie was much more "deep" than the book.
In the book we meet Max and find that he thinks that his mother is unfair after he is punished by being sent to bed with no dinner. He then escapes into a world of monsters who crown him king because he is the wildest of all. After a while he figures out that where he really belongs and wants to be is home. It's a good book.
The movie goes deeper and you feel what the kid is feeling on a different level. The wild things represent different parts of him self, some of which even he is not too fond of. It would seem that kids would miss a lot of the details involved but I think my little guy caught quite a bit of it.
He watched the whole movie and at times did some of his odd behaviors like covering his ears but kept watching - even though he could still hear. That is one of the things he does when he is afraid or upset.
When we talked about it, what it came down to is that he identified so very strongly with the boy and it made him sad. I won't go into detail in case you have not yet seen the movie but it was a moment that pulled on my heartstrings and one that I will remember for a long time. I am sure he will too.
I am not saying the character in the movie had adhd but my kiddo in question is kind of a stereotypical adhd kid in many respects and those traits that he doesn't understand about himself and doesn't like about himself are some that he was identifying with. He is such an awesome kid though and smart as a whip but I see those moments frequently where he does things that get him in trouble and he genuinely does not know why he did them. It's kind of sad but we all do it, although likely on a less dramatic level. We all do things we wish we had not and wonder why we did it in the first place (at least I think we all do).
A lot of people don't think adhd is real or think that it's an excuse or whatever but if you live with it and you see different aspects in different people you love, you know that it is real.
That kiddo is not the only one in the house with adhd and we all show it in slightly different ways. We have one who is not hyper and not really impulsive but is VERY distracted. That same child is wonderfully imaginative and a joy to be around. Her issues are also much more easily overlooked because they don't often involve acting out. Then there is myself. Yep...me too. I tend to be more distracted than hyper and impulsive, but I definitely exhibit those tendencies as well. Just not to the same extent as my son.
The folks in the house who do not seem to have these same personality issues are very tolerant of the rest of us. We really are a blessed family. I think that I likely have the most trouble tolerating some of the behaviors because when you see something that really irritates you it often is one of your own traits that you are not too terribly fond of. However I also think that when the emotional wounds are open I identify the best with what is going on.
Two of us have tried medication and have discontinued using it. I know it can really help some people but it just isn't for everyone. I really like who my kids are and for the most part I like myself ok. We are going the route of trying to change some eating habits and piling on lots of love and discipline.
Anyone who doesn't understand what these kids feel may not get how much this movie and that moment with my son touched me. However if you have your own "wild thing" and you haven't seen the movie you may want to. I think the movie may hit home more with you than with some others. I have seen reviews that talked about the whimsy being taken away from the original story but in my opinion it was definitely replaced with something worthwhile and eye opening.
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